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Wednesday, May 6th, 2009
1:52 pm
How to get rid of the annoying random update button on FurAffinity
If you want to get rid of the annoying as hell "Update, random mode" button:

This should work for all mozilla browsers (Seamonkey, Firefox, Camino, Flock, etc.) and for Safari and Opera, too.

First off, if you're unfamiliar with editing the userContent.css file, google it with your browser name to find out where your browser's configs (If you're using Camino, for example, they're in ~/Library/Application Support/Camino ) are located, and if a userContent.css file is not already there, create one.

Insert this block into the file, and save it:

@-moz-document domain(furaffinity.net)
width: 4px !important;

Note: if you want to get rid of it completely, change "width: 4px !important;" to "display: none !important;"
Thursday, July 5th, 2007
4:05 pm
The Fine Art of Critiques
Okay, a lot of people in furry seem to have a hell of a lot of trouble understanding certain things about critiques, so I'll do my best here to explain them.

What a critique is:
An evaluation of a work, especially to note its strengths and structural flaws.

What a critique isn't:
A rant about what's wrong with a work.

- How is the linework?
- How is the anatomy, if applicable?
- Does the artist have a good grasp of composition?
- Does the piece invoke a strong emotional reaction?
- Are there spelling and/or grammatical errors?
- Does it flow well?
- Does it grab the reader and keep them interested?
- If it has a point, how well is that point made?

- Does it get me off?
- Does it have the right kind of genitals?
- Is it the right species?
- Does it suck? If so, how much? Why it sucks is unimportant.
- Do you wish the artist/writer would change things that are not technically wrong, but you personally don't like?

And possibly the most important, when it's appropriate to give a critique:
-When it's requested.
-When it's posted somewhere critiques are to be expected. (Such as /crit/ on fchan.)

When it's NOT appropriate:
-Any other time or place.

And here's a thought: if you want to give a critique but don't know if it's appropriate, you can always, you know, ask the artist/writer if they want it.

"If they don't like being 'critiqued' they shouldn't post their art on the internet!" Guess what, assholes? Because of people like you, a lot of artists eventually take that to heart, and stop posting their art in public. Sit down, shut up, and leave them alone.
Wednesday, December 27th, 2006
8:21 pm
Macrophilia: We Can Post Graphic Violence Where It Doesn't Belong And Get Away With It
Seriously, I can't be the only person who's noticed this. I swear a lot of macrophiles seem to think that there's nothing "adult" or "extreme" about macros crushing people--usually bloodily. I see that shit _all the time_ in the Macro / Micro (Tame) section on Fur Affinity, and /a/ on FChan. (extreme shit like that goes in /ah/, people, and ironically, they seem to allow this while _all_ vore, including the kind you'd see in children's TV shows, is restricted to /ah/) Seriously, I know that in western culture nudity and sexuality are more likely to be considered "adult" than violence, but the line is pretty much always drawn well below people being turned into bloody smears on the street.

Seriously, it's not freaking kosher. It's bad enough that the vast majority of macrophilia is hung up on ultraviolence, but they could at least keep it out of the more tame areas. -_-
Monday, November 6th, 2006
2:30 pm
On Administration Solidarity
The recent Fur Affinity drama has pointed out to me a very, very serious flaw I've been encountering throughout furry: all the administrators of a given place should be in agreement, and any administrator who dares to speak out against the other admins should not have the position.

This is flat out wrong. Administrator solidarity means that whatever the clique of admins wants, they can do. If they decided to randomly ban something or someone they didn't like, they can do it easily, because no one with any clout can speak against them. A united administrator clique is just as dangerous as a single dictator, if not more so.

For example, look at the US. If you analyze history, the periods in which the Federal Government has been at its worst have pretty much universally been when all 3 branches of the government were lead by one party. We need dissent among administrators, because it allows the administration as a whole to have a much more broad perspective, and it provides an administration with checks and balances to at least _usually_ prevent them from doing something stupid.

We need dissent among administrators, or we end up with dictatorship, and though good dictatorships are not unheard of, they are uncommon, while administrations made up of people with some dissenting opinions tend to be beneficial to the people far more often than dictatorships.
Sunday, August 20th, 2006
12:46 am
Birchparting, especially in response to someone being being emo, just elevates tensions and makes you look like a dipshit. For crying out loud, if shit's bugging you, either say something and stick around to argue your case, or STFU and leave quietly.

For those of you who don't know what it is, you've probably seen it, assuming you're furries. It's the fine art of complaining about whatever is going on in a chatroom, then leaving the chatroom, thus pissing everyone off and solving nothing.
Wednesday, August 2nd, 2006
11:05 pm
PSA for Macrophiles
People being mangled horribly and bloodily under a macro's foot != tame/kid safe/etc. so please, stop posting it where you're not supposed to post adult or otherwise graphically violent content! This includes but is not limited to /a/ on Fchan and the Macro/Micro (Tame) category on FurAffinity.

Thank you.

Current Mood: aggravated
Monday, February 27th, 2006
10:23 pm
It's a Virtue, Dammit!


Once more, with feeling: PATIENCE, INTERNET PEOPLE.

People idle. People don't hang out in one single chatroom, and watch it like some creepy old guy watching the playground in the local park for juicy child-flesh. People do not sit around all day eagerly anticipating that one IM from that one person that will make their whole day worth while, even though it usually consists of greeting, response, query on state of being, response, end of conversation.

Have some fucking patience! If you say something in a chatroom and no one responds, give it more than 2 minutes before deciding no one cares that you exist and leaving to slit your wrists. Same thing goes for IMs, or any other form of online communication. I'm really, really sick of seeing people joinparting chatrooms or bitching at me on AIM because I didn't drop everything I was doing at the exact moment they joined or IMed me and focus my full attention on them.
Monday, December 5th, 2005
1:27 pm
Bad Weather Chatters
I've got a bit of a question here... what in the hell is the motivation/logic behind going to a given chatroom because the one you usually hang out in is down? A place I hang out in tends to get people like that quite a lot, and I don't understand the mentality behind it. Do they feel like there's some void they have to fill? Are they so pathetically desperate for contact (or more likely, sexual RP) that they have to have go to the other place to get their fix? As soon as their default place goes back up, they disappear from the other place, and I just don't understand why they do this. What's the point of going to a chatroom at all if you're only going to be there when some other room is down?

On a related note, ever notice how the Bad Weather Chatter almost always expects their 'fallback' area to be run the same as their main one?

Current Mood: annoyed
Saturday, December 3rd, 2005
9:54 am
Well, I suspose I should make some kind of introductory post here. I go by my nickname Kit (I don't feel comfortable putting my real name online) and I have just started to look at the furry world. Up till now I've been a little too shy to do so. I don't know very much at all about furries, and I figured this would be a great group to join to see what is and is not generally considered socially acceptable here. Common sense I have, I just don't know if there is anything I need beyond that to avoid seriously putting my foot in my mouth.....
Monday, August 29th, 2005
9:30 pm
This is to all moderators, operators, and Concerned Citizens of various furry places: next time you see someone whining about a request not being done yet, or begging an artist to draw/write them something, give them a textual bitch-slap for me and all the other artists who are sick of these scumbags having the gall to bitch about not getting something free of cost "on time" or "in the right condition." If it's a commission, then yeah, they have every right to bitch (to a reasonable point; it's not the end of the world if someone's fur is not the exact right shade of brown) because they paid for it.

Unless you paid for it, wait patiently, and STFU. If people were half as grateful for free art as they should be, you'd have a lot less disgruntled/anti-fan artists out there.

Current Mood: annoyed
Monday, August 22nd, 2005
3:36 pm
Unified F(urry/etish) Theory
I stumbled onto something that made me groan and roll my eyes today, and it got me to thinking... maybe, just maybe, it's an instance of the root of Furry/Fetish Drama: the unification of furry/fetish communities. Basically, we're mixing people from all walks of life who have just one thing in common, and that one thing tends to have an immense amount of variation. You have people uniting because of this one thing, and, oddly enough, they end up encountering quite a lot of variants that rub them the wrong way. What does this cause? Drama. Also, you are encountering different personalities and attitudes, which often clash, resulting in... drama. (I'm sensing a trend here.)

Basically, I believe the biggest problem in furry and fetish communities to be lack of clear divisions. People keep getting lumped together in huge 'communities' that are prone to infighting and copious quantities of drama, when if you broke things up a little, and spread things out a bit, the situation would be a lot less problematic. The vast majority of my own problems in furry stem from my constantly having to sift through things I don't want to see, and interact with people I don't want to interact with, just in the rare chance of finding what I _want_. Most of the other problems I see in furry seem to be from people not liking some variant of the focal point of whatever community they're in, and yet I see a lot of people wanting furry/fetish communities to be more unified?

Ironically, one of the biggest gripes I hear about furry is 'cliqueishness,' and yet no one seems to understand why it happens. I will tell you: people are naturally going to want to hang around those they get along with. In trying to unify everything into one big community, you're begging for rampant cliques. Why not, instead, have each clique be its own separate community? You can intercommunicate, and have overlapping memberships, so they wouldn't be isolated, but you'd not have the clique-issues so badly any more, because if someone doesn't like the people in community A, they can move on to community B, instead of being stuck wallflowering or bitching about the cliques in the mega-huge-unified community.

Remember this: division is not segregation. You're not forced to 'stay with your own kind' in the situation I consider closer to ideal, you can be in as many communities as you like. You just don't have to be stuck dealing with the things and people you really don't want to put up with just to get what you do want.

Current Mood: disappointed
Monday, July 25th, 2005
3:14 am
Um, yeah...
This is an announcement to all furries:

THIS IS A FALSE STATEMENT: "If person A does something bad to person B, A is a bad person, and B is a good person."

Again, that statement is false. If person A does something bad to person B, all that can be concluded is that some form of tension exists between A and B. You cannot make a logical conclusion about the personal character of A or B without far deeper analysis of their personalities, histories, and the issue at hand.

That is all.

Current Mood: disappointed
Sunday, July 10th, 2005
12:27 pm
Fetish Yahoo!/other groups.
I've been seeing a lot of whining about Yahoo! and other such sites shutting down fetish-oriented groups lately. People go on and on about how horrible these people are for 'censoring' them or 'attacking them for being different.' I've looked into these cases, and found that, in every single case, the groups shut down were in violation of the Terms of Service/Acceptable Use Policy. It's their fault for creating groups in violation of these things in the first place.

I've suggested this many times, but I seem to be the only one suggesting it, and no one seems to be listening. Please, do us all a favor, and whenever you see someone bitching about Yahoo! or some other groups site deleting some fetish-oriented group, wrap this around a six-inch spike and lodge it in the whiner's skull:

Don't host your sites/groups where they will violate the rules of the host!

Current Mood: exasperated
Wednesday, June 22nd, 2005
1:16 am
On anti-furry trolling.
Stop fucking feeding the trolls. Seriously. If you see some website or forum making fun of furries, just move on and leave it alone. They want you to react, and get pissy, and dramatic, and otherwise give them entertainment. If furries stopped crying like babies every time someone on some website says furries are all whiny, dramatic bitches, they'll stop fucking with furries and move on to an easier target.

Now... I am not excusing malicious attack by trolls, just for clarification. Those who actually send people to disrupt furry sites, chats, and other parts of furry are scumbags, and I hope there will come a time when they will be arrested for the acts of hate and vandalism they commit. I'm saying that if they're not directly attacking you, just ignore them, okay? Unless you have a real, genuinely practical solution (note: bitching at them doesn't solve jack) then find something better to do with your life than feed the flames by expressing your righteous indignation.

Let's concentrate on weeding the trolls out of our own damned communities, okay? I mean, fuck, I don't even bother posting in any mainstream furry places on account of the fact that I just can't wade through bullshit that's up to my ears. Where's the indignation and desire to change things here, huh? Why the fuck are we furries so damned concerned with what some random non-fur thinks about furries, when we have more than enough furries treating other furs like shit for their own amusement?

Let's try dealing with the real problems before tackling the shit that really makes no difference in the grand scheme of things.

Current Mood: annoyed
Wednesday, May 11th, 2005
4:24 pm
Private RP in Public Places
Okay. You're on a MUCK, and you decide to get into a private RP with someone. No problem, 'handup' , then take them somewhere private.

...or just try to do the scene in the empty public area or in pages/whispers, then blow a gasket when someone enters the public place, or your partner Mavs.

The latter situation actually seems to happen far more often than the prior. (Then again, that's likely because, by its very nature, the prior rarely gets seen to happen.) Just today, I walk into one of my favorite hangouts, with two people there, and one of them makes an expression of disgust. Curious (and somewhat hurt) I ask that if that was in response to my arrival. I find out that yes, indeed, it was. Apparently, I 'interrupted' their private scene--in that public area--so one of them has to treat me like I've done them some horrible inconvenience by existing in the same public place they're in. Thanks, I really wanted to feel like shit right after logging onto the MUCKs.

The thing is... it's not hard to RP in real privacy. On MUCKs, you can @dig yourself a private room quite easily, and invite your partner(s) there. On IRC, you can use /msg, /query, or a private channel. For less developed chats, you shouldn't even be RPing in there at all if you want privacy, and you should provide messenger screen names.

Okay... if you want to page/whisper RP in a public place, that's okay too. Just don't freak out if a Mav happens. It's not the end of the world, and it's not a scene-breaker unless you make it so.

Though most importantly, leave the innocent bystanders alone, please.

Current Mood: annoyed
Monday, May 9th, 2005
3:35 pm
Oh, the drama!
This one goes out to a certain type of fur that really, really needs a sound beating with the clue-stick: The "Oh no, drama!" furs. Why?

Because you're contributing to the drama, morons.

If some fur is whining about one thing or another, either tell them, flat out, that they're annoying you, or leave them the hell alone. For one, you can probably correctly assume that some callous idiot drove them to it in half the cases, and for another--and this is the more important bit--if you bitch about the "angst" or "drama", you've just successfully escalated an issue that would have faded if left on its own. I've encountered more situations as follows than I can count:

Fur A: <says something depressive>
Fur B: Oh god, I don't come here for this angsty shit!
<20+ minute shouting match ensues>

And once in a while, I see this situation:

Fur A:<says something depressive>
Fur B:<says nothing>
Fur A:<says something else depressive>
Fur B:<says nothing>
Fur A: <snaps out of it> Oh! Sorry about that. Needed to vent. How's it going?

It typically takes a few minutes, tops, for the depressive/angry fur to snap out of it and calm down, if they are left alone. The real drama only occurs when an argument happens.

Got that? Getting on their case isn't going to stop the drama, it's just going to piss them off, and get everyone else pissed off at you for being a selfish prick. Unless it's in a place that's for IC-only, people have a right to talk about their problems if they want to. (You also have the right to tell them to shut the hell up, though again, that typically just starts a dramatic argument.) If people occasionally bitch about RL or something that happened <elsewhere/elsewhen/whatever> in an OOC place, that's just them being OOC. OOC areas are not a place for people like you to escape to. That's what IC-only areas and things that don't require interaction with real people (such as reading a book, or playing a single player video game) are for.

Yes, depressed/angry furs can be annoying, but not nearly as annoying as people who give them shit for it.

Current Mood: annoyed
Saturday, March 26th, 2005
5:36 pm
False Gender
New rant, and this one will offend some people. False Gender personae/fursonae irk me. What do I mean by this? People who's primary fursona or online persona is a different gender from their own, and who don't try to make it clear they're actually the opposite gender IRL. This is extremely common in furry (especially with men posing as women) and it's really quite unpleasant for people who get fooled into thinking they really are the gender they pretend to be. This isn't the fault of the fooled, either. Frankly, it's not easy to tell what gender someone is by their typing. People have tried finding ways to do it, and I've tested my own writing against them. They typically think I'm a woman, or can't figure out which I am. Unfortunately for them, I (looks in his pants to make sure) have a penis.

Frankly, this just isn't kosher. It's lying, plain and simple. If you want to RP as the opposite gender, or are transgender, unless you make the truth clear, you're obfuscating it. Yes, I do have some friends who do this. I tolerate them, but I by no means feel that what they are doing is right.

It's just... wrong. Even I've been nailed with the 'oh, I'm actually a ' thing after getting too close, and it hurts. It's worse than getting dumped by a significant other, because not only do you have your hope cut off, you find out you've been a fool the entire time.

However, I do not fault them entirely for this. I know a lot of people hide behind false genders to hide from people trying to get too involved with them. This is a problem, especially for women. (I can't count how many times I've had women tell me how much it bugs them when dick-head men find out they're women IRL and start drooling all over them.) It does not, however, justify deceiving people with false-gender. People aren't powerless here. If you don't want to be bothered because of your RL gender, make note of this to people. If people bother you because of it, it is fully within your right to do what it takes to get them to leave you alone. Say it happens on a MUCK. Ask them to stop. If they don't, contact a Wizard and file a No Contact Order. If they bother you again, show a Wizard a log, and they will ban them from the MUCK.

Honestly, false-gendering online is not the best idea period, unless one is very circumspect. One would likely have to create an alternate nickname for use in places the gender isn't shown in something like a character description or IM info. If that doesn't work, in any post or conversation that would bring the gender up, it should be noted that the person is OOC their real gender. (This can typically be done rather easily by always using the right pronouns when OOC.)

In the scenario: "Wait, you're a ???" there are only two cases in which the fault does not fall on the person who's gender is in question: firstly, if they made adequate effort to show their true RL gender, or secondly, if their gender was ambiguous. (IE, they do not have their character's gender available, so it cannot mislead one to believe the player is the same gender as the character.

Textual communication is flawed, and we really need to work on ways to improve it, and the only way I can see it working is making it possible to, with reasonable assurance, take things at face value.

Current Mood: aggravated
Thursday, February 17th, 2005
9:09 pm
"When in Rome..."
Do as the Romans do. You can replace Rome with whatever you like, and it still tends to hold true--especially in online chatrooms.

Each place has its own set of rules and customs. When going to a new place, please try to familiarize yourself with these rules and customs. You will likely make a few faux pas, but most will be nice about it, and merely try to politely inform you of your error.

Unfortunately, some people have trouble realizing this. Lately, I've been dealing with the wonder and hell that is being a moderator/operator in a few active areas, and I'm getting quite sick of this scenario:

Person: *does something that isn't supposed to be done there*
Modertor: *asks person to stop doing it*
Person: *fumes in righteous indignation*

And mind you, most of the time, these are merely polite requests to cease an activity, or move it somewhere else, and perhaps a reminder that such activity is not appreciated in that area.

These places are not your playground, and they do not revolve around you. If you cannot respect this, you should not be there.

There are instances in which a person does have every right to be indignant, such as, say, being ignored for being new, or being told to do something they don't want to do, such as participate in a vore scene. However, most of what I'm seeing are things like getting too yiffy or violent in a room that allows minors, or simply being asked to take an RP out of an OOC room and into an IC room or PMs.

C'mon, folks. Common sense may not be common, but it's not _too_ difficult. :P

Current Mood: annoyed
Thursday, February 3rd, 2005
3:55 pm
This isn't a rant, and it's moderately OT, but it is pretty important, so...

For those of you who don't consider coyotes vermin, and are willing to lend a helping hand to a center for rescuing them, be it by donating, or spreading the word, please look here:


Current Mood: sympathetic
Wednesday, February 2nd, 2005
11:26 pm
There's an extremely common misconception that isn't exclusive to furry, but is dreadfully common in it:

Angst = anything negative.

No, folks, it doesn't. Angst is a very specific term.


Function: noun
Etymology: Danish & German; Danish, from German
: a feeling of anxiety, apprehension, or insecurity

Quoted from: http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/dictionary?book=Dictionary&va=angst&x=0&y=0

Note the lack of other definitions. That's it. That's _the_ definition of angst.

"Oh man, they're all going to laugh at me. I'm so pathetic." = angst
"Ugh, I just had a really bad day." = !angst
"Man, this is really starting to piss me off." = !angst

So there you have it. Please spread the word so people stop crying 'angst' at every little thing.

Current Mood: amused
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